Your November Intimacy Challenge

When the weather is ugly, and it is dark outside, intimacy is your best source of joy, fulfilment and nourishment. But what can you do when things are not how you want them? How do you find the solution based on the root cause? 

It is time to talk about how to be an erotic detective and see what is holding you back.

There are 4 main types of obstacles to examine, and knowing about them can help to move forward in a different way, and change your erotic life.


Chemical obstacles


This is not “just” about hormones, but blood health, sexual chemistry, biochemistry, medications, supplements, neurotransmitter dominance… Finding what influences how you experience pleasure and arousal / or the lack of it shows you the right direction. A hormone panel and blood test is a good start. 


Physical obstacles


How is your health? Are you flexible? What about your digestion? How is your range of motion and mobility? Did you have any accidents? What kinds of traumas has your body gone through? How are your bones and organs?


It doesn’t necessarily seem obvious, but so much of your body and health is connected to how you can experience arousal and pleasure or how your orgasms are.
So looking through your body’s past and present challenges or ways that you feel happy and fulfilled can show you the way for a better, more satisfying erotic life. 


Emotional obstacles


The connection between your emotional life and your intimate life is well known today, and still it is very unique and all influenced by your past experiences.

Have you suffered abuse?

How do you feel about your sexual turn-ons? What does your sex life mean to you?

How was your childhood?

What emotional patterns do you play out over and over again in your relationships and your sex life?

Where do you feel judged?


When you look at your sex life in the context of your emotional life some things are highlighted and new dynamics emerge and you will be able to see what you need to transform for more fulfilment. 


Energetic obstacles


This is the most voovoo for a lot of people. Just because something is not tangible, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t influence your sex life. 

How sensitive are you? What are you attracted to or repelled by? 

The dynamics of a relationship and polarity belong to this category, and they have a huge part in your sex life.

How can you create a framework that works the best for you?


What is one step that you can take and would possibly make a big difference for you?


Your challenge is “only” to contemplate and look through your sex life with new eyes, going through these obstacles and see what is emerging from it.

Is there an action plan that can open new doors for you? Wherever you are in your erotic life, there is always something new to bloom for you. 

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