As a coach working in sexuality it took me a lot of time to find the tools and methods that are inclusive and not about what I call “normative sexuality”. This is what I love a lot about Erotic Blueprints. There are 5 Erotic Blueprints: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky and Shapeshifter. And it is all about how to map your arousal and create experiences that are deeply satisfying, including the kinky dynamics.
I’m talking to those here who want to know more about those parts of their arousal maps that are out of the “normal” box or are different. Let’s start with this video about why are you kinky:
Having unusual desires and being kinky is not necessarily a result of childhood trauma or you being broken.
Being kinky is in relation to what you consider “normal and accepted” sexuality is. So if you think, that having oral sex is not normal or a taboo, and you are still doing it, you are actually kinky, so actually you don’t have to do any extreme things. If you think that oral sex is normal, than you are not kinky doing it.
So it is a subjective category defined by your own judgement about what is taboo and what isn’t.
Let’s go further and talk about the Kinky Erotic Blueprint.
If you follow the sex coach blog, you will see posts about how to test your erotic blueprints and know more about what you or partner your need more of in order to have the satisfaction that they need.
Do you need support? Write to me at the email: sexcoach@playblue.ie.