I see this all the time… People finally decide to buy a dildo, but… when they see how many options are on the market they feel overwhelmed and indecisive.
Even if you have already had a dildo before there is still a lot to consider, so let’s help you so that you will know what exactly to look for. I have several factors for you to think through. Because it is not “just” about the right size.
Purpose
Before you go for the size and material or other practical details you need to know what you are going to use the dildo for. So let’s start with this. Like when you buy a new car you think about what is important for you. Good everyday use, what fuel it does, you go for look and speed or rather a big trunk… It is similar to dildos too.
So ask yourself: what do I want to use the dildo for?
Do you want to use the dildo for anal play or vaginal or both?
What kind of orgasms do you look for? Vaginal? Cervical? G-spot? Anal? Prostate? Or maybe you want a dildo for squirting?
Do you want to use it on its own or do you want to put it in a strap-on or both?
Do you want a strong suction cup so that you can ride the dildo?
Is a dildo enough for you or vibrations would make the play even more satisfying to you?
And I put this piece for here, because for some people choosing a dildo starts here: Do you want a realistic dildo or the opposite?
Do you have something special in your mind for the dildo?
And the most important thing is: What would turn you on?
So first answer these questions to help you to navigate your choice.
The size and shape
When you know the purpose and what is important for you in a dildo it is easier to choose the right one.
If you want a dildo for prostate play, you know that you need a not too long, curved dildo.
If you need a dildo for a strap-on then a suction cup is a must, and usually it is easier to handle a dildo without balls. The bigger the dildo is, the heavier it becomes that makes it more challenging to manage. Not “just” to wear but also to the harness to keep it at place.
We love to think about big dildos, and for some people bigger is really better. But for the most it works better to size down. Just go a little bit smaller than you think you want. I tell this to those who are beginners here. If you have experience with different sizes before, you don’t need my advice about the size, but I hear a lot from people that they went too big with their first dildo.
I also have to add here, that the material of the dildo matters. The harder and less flexible it is the more you are going to feel the size.
But let’s talk about the material more
Silicone is usually people’s favourite choice in dildos. They are easy to mould into different shapes and sizes, so you will find a big variety of them including different colours and textures…
But silicone is a very versatile material in the sense that you will find cheaper and premium versions as well. Most of them feel very realistic. And it is not just the price that is different but the feel of them as well.
Nowadays you will see a new “genre” of silicone dildos, the dual density ones. These dildos have a stronger core and are wrapped with a softer silicone. This provides a more realistic feeling.
Jelly dildos are also preferred because they are the softest. You will also find them in all shapes, sizes and colours, but I also have to add that they can have some amazing textures too that can enhance your experience.
Glass dildos are a very different category. They are harder and shaped. They can provide the perfect pressure for squirting, g-spot play, prostate orgasm, yoni de-armoring. I personally love glass but plugs as well, because they slide in and out with more ease than jelly and silicone dildos. They just have a very different feel. They will feel less realistic but at the same time very pleasurable.
They are also perfect for temperature play, you can cool them down or warm them up according to your needs, and they also let you choose any lube that you want.
Hence silicone dildos can absorb silicone lube, your choice is limited to water based lubes, but with glass you can use oils and silicone lubes as well. This makes them even better for anal play. At the same time they are not the most suitable choice for strap-on play, because they are not flexible enough to navigate all poses.
Steel and metal dildos are quite familiar to glass dildos, but they are usually much heavier. They last a very long time. You will find them in less shapes, sizes and textures than glass ones, and they also tend to be more pricey.
Some people love the feeling of heaviness, especially in anal play, where this provides the feeling of fullness.
Both materials you will find with extra vibrations as well. But while jelly and silicone vibrators you find in hundreds of formats, glass and metal vibrators are quite rare to find.
Shape and texture
Texture is not usually the main feature of what people look in dildos, but they can make thrusting and movement more intense. So if you struggle with orgasms or not being sensitive enough the texture can give you the extra umph that you need.
Of course the shape has a big part in how the experience will be for you.
That very much depends on the purpose and your anatomy.
An extra curve can hit your g-spot or prostate perfectly.
A more straight dildo can penetrate deeper.