Who is into the classic massage? Doesn't it sound good to indulge in aromatic oils, warm and delicious touches?
What if that is not enough for you and want more?
Something with a different setup.
Something that is designed keeping you in the experience even more.
Something with arousing, unexpected twists?
You need to kinkify your massage.
Or at least do things differently.
You can just spice it all up a little bit or you can make it hot and maybe even hmm… impactful.
How?
Play with the senses
For the eyes
Add unexpected elements that usually are not part of a “classic” massage.
Like you or your partner can wear a blindfold. Wearing a blindfold allows you to be more in the moment, your senses are heightened. If you are someone who tends to overthink and is in their head a lot, a blindfold can change your focus to your body and environment.
And maybe this sounds strange to some of you, but not only the one who is receiving can wear the blindfold, but the one who is massaging can do that too. So that they can really focus on the feeling and do things differently than their usual pattern.
For the ears
You can have very different music than usual. Especially if you want to go in a kinkier direction. It doesn’t even need to be music. For example ASMR tracks land you to a different place that can help you to relax your nervous system or change how you feel. For example I had a play session when I used some tracks with cold, intense winds to make the impression of a colder environment. It worked really well.
Not everybody is looking for a relaxed feeling. Some people are here for the thrill. And both are fine. You have options even if you are having a massage.
For the lips
You can always add tastes (and aromas) as well to the massage. Blindfolds usually make this even better. One of my favourites is to use a juicy fruit handy. Clementine, orange, and peach are perfect.
Let the receiver smell the fruit before you touch it to their lips. Be playful. Tease them. And then lift the fruit up a little and let the juice drop here and there. Let them guess when the next drop is coming. It is delicious and sexy.
For the skin
The skin gets the most part in a massage of course. When you are not opting for relaxation it is so fun to play with sensations. Temperature play is one of the options. (Read my post about how to master your temperature play here.)
Add some spiky sensation. The pin wheel is so exciting. You don’t need to add lots of pressure in order to spice up the moment. Be careful with the areas like testicles, nipples as penis.
Add crops, paddles and whips to your repertoire. I would recommend to test them first before your kinky massage so that you will know what is the optimum for your partner, where it is too painful, what intensity works for them… Impact play can be a part of a massage session, and can make a mind-blowing experience.
Click here for crops, paddles and whips.
And just because you add impact play to the massage session, you don’t have to say no to the luxurious, soft, sensual add-ons. Why not combine them? Feathers feel amazing, so as soft, furry and fluffy materials.
Wax (always choose body safe, low temperature candles) can also be something different.
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The game changer:
Bonding your partner gives another layer to the massage. This is especially true for those who otherwise find massages boring. You can surrender to being restrained or you can fight it, it all depends on where your turn on is.
I prefer cuffs a bit more than rope, because you can change the position more easily, and doesn't require extra skills. If you do the massage on the bed the bed restraints that go under the mattress are ideal for the task. If your bed frame allows you to just use the cuffs, go for them.
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It just makes such a big difference.
I have a massage bed, and I highly recommend to get one of you have enough space for it. It just provides more freedom and options. Also it is easier for the giver to get access to any part with less movement and effort.
And of course don’t leave your partner unattended while they are restrained.
Play with control
What would make everything more interesting for you (and for your partner)? Who would tell what is going to happen? Just because you are the giver you don’t have to be the one in charge, or just because you are restrained and you are the one receiving you can be the one giving the orders.
But before everything: Have a consent conversation
Ask your partner about what they are a yes to and what not.
What is that they want to experience?
Do they have any body parts that they don’t want to be touched or anything happen to?
Are there any toys that they don’t want to use this time?
And if you are the giver your consent is also needed. Are there any toys, sensations, scenarios that you want to avoid, or the opposite, really want to experience.
Have a safe word. Even if you think that you don’t do anything extra that would require a safe word, you never know when you are going to be triggered. So be prepared for this, and stop when one of you says the safe word.
And after everything: Aftercare
I know we are talking about a massage, and classic massages don’t require aftercare, do they? The truth is that they do. You don’t just jump off the massage table all of a sudden. People usually need some time to come back to earth. So even if you don’t have a kinky set up, you can check what you need.
Maybe you need a blanket and some time alone. Maybe you need a hug or some cuddling. Maybe you need penetrative sex as an aftercare (yes, this can also be a need for some people). Maybe you need some chocolate… Maybe you need some creams or gels for the bruises if you have them. Maybe you just need some stretching. Or you need verbal reassurance that everything is ok…
Do something different, add some extra toys and a very new way to the usual massage.