I find pegging a beautiful experience. When it is done well, it is intimate and it is not only highly pleasurable but can create deep satisfaction as well.
What is pegging?
The classic definition of pegging is this: It is sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating his anus with a strap-on dildo. I would actualize this by replacing the word woman by a vulva bodied person and the word man by a penis bodied person. So it is not about your gender, but it is about what your body is like.
Does wanting and enjoying to be penetrated anally by your partner with a strap-on make you gay?
I get this question a lot, so I want to tell you that it doesn’t. You are not gay just because you enjoy anal pleasure. You are still attracted to your partner. Just because a lesbian woman enjoys vaginal penetration she won’t be heterosexual.
What do you need to know about strap-ons, so that you can have a flawless, superhot experience?
There are 3 different kinds of strap-ons.
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Strapless strap-on
This is the kind of strap-on most beginners want to start with. And my personal experience is that this is not the best idea.
Most people find a harness very intimidating. It seems complicated. So they opt for the strapless option. Hence you just insert the vaginal part and you are ready to go, it seems easy. And also the inserted dildo can add extra stimulation. And both of them are true, but this is not the whole picture.
My first two pegging attempts were with these kinds of strap-ons. I find pegging a huge turn-on, so I was already wet. Keeping a strapless strap-on while you are wet is very challenging on its own. You have to keep that dildo in place and manoeuvre with it and control it well. Even just keeping the dildo is challenging. If you choose this kind of toy, try to have a lighter one.
The second part is about control (especially if you are a beginner). If your partner is thigh anally then you have to work that. Go slow, play, help them to relax, enter lightly, withdraw… In order to do this you have to own your “cock”. I think that a strapless strap-on is the most challenging this way, because all that you can rely on are your vaginal and pelvic muscles.
2. Harness with an exchangeable dildo
I find this kind of strap-on is the best for the “job”. (This is why you see these kinds of toys the most in pegging porn as well.)
The biggest advantage of the harness with a dildo is that you have options to choose the best dildo for penetration. (I have this one) You can start with a smaller dildo and as you have more and more experience you can choose a bigger one or a different shape, according to what you want. This gives you freedom, and you can always have exactly what works best for the experience. You and your partner’s needs will define what you choose rather than trying to have the best from the one toy that you have. And this is a big thing.
I know that a harness seems confusing when you haven't tried them yet. Ok sometimes even after you tried them. So don’t give up, if it is not like how you imagined it. Harnesses can be crotchless so the straps go around the crotch not on the center or one strap goes under the crotch and two straps go around the hips.
I personally prefer the crotchless ones, because I find them more comfortable and also more hygienic. The under the crotch versions can also feel really good, and you can decide to use a smaller dildo vaginally hence the strap will help you to keep that inside. At the same time the strap under the crotch can feel unpleasant, this mostly depends on the material, the width and your anatomy.
So the harness has the straps and the triangle shaped “holder” at the centre, which is going to hold the dildo. Usually there are snaps holding a ring in the centre and this part is keeping the dildo at place.
You have the freedom to adjust the right angle for penetration, and this is a huge thing. You can move your “cock” around wherever you want to. :)))
Most harnesses come with different sized rings that are supposed to keep the dildo at place. You can double the rings if they are not able to keep the dildo in place. I swapped my rings for more stable ones.
I have a couple of dildos, and it is totally fine to start with something smaller like for example this one. You want the experience to be unforgettable for the right reasons.
Jelly dildos are a bit softer and more flexible than silicone ones, so you have more options to play with the angles. Hence silicone dildos are a little bit harder, you probably feel that you have more control and power when you are using them. Silicone dildos are a bit heavier than jelly ones, so the bigger they are, the more you have to be able to move properly.
(Some harnesses are equipped with vac-u-lock, rather than snaps and rings.)
3. Harness with a built in dildo
A built in dildo means that you have a lot of control over the dildo. You don’t have to worry about losing the dildo. This is good. You can feel more confident. You have a lot of control as well.
At the same time you have to enjoy the same “cock” over and over again. Most of these toys are not flexible either, so the angle and the size are defined for you.
The built in harness that I tried (this one) also had an insertable dildo part. This keeps the dildo more in place. The pressure over my clit and the vulva feels amazing. It adds extra pleasure to every movement. And even just wearing it feels super hot.
On the other side there is no flexibility. The outside part doesn't move, so I have less options related to the angles. And I find the vaginal part too close to the outside dildo. My anatomy is different and I would need at least an extra inch or more for distance.
Check out the strap-on selection here.
And of course choose a good anal lube as well.