3 tips to last longer in bed that are not pills and sprays

Lasting longer in bed can be elusive. Worrying about your performance is going to ruin your whole experience. It is natural looking for “sure” solutions in order to feel confident again is natural, and still you can train for better endurance, more control and more intense orgasms. 

Don’t feel powerless, learn to become confident in bed.

Where to start?

More Oxygen

This sounds like not a big thing or something that doesn’t make a big difference, except that it does. Even an open window before your sexy time can help you, but if you want to have the most benefits, practising breathing deeper is one of your most powerful weapons. When you feel your body tensing up and your arousal starts to be more intense and more “dense” and at the same time your breath becomes shallow. This is when you get over the edge.

If you can develop a new way, when you feel yourself tensing up, but instead of breathing shallowly you focus on breathing deeper and slower into your belly, into your pelvis, you can experience change.

This takes time, practice and effort, but you teach your body a “new trick” while you support the regulation of your nervous system. Don’t underestimate the power and the effect of this in your sex life. You will be able to handle more pleasure.

Kegel - Pelvic Exercises

You’ve probably heard about Kegel exercises, but it was about women and tightening their pelvic muscles. But pelvic exercises and better muscle control is not “just” for women. You can profit from stronger muscles and better body-mind connection in this area. 

The side effects are more intense orgasms and yes, you can last longer, because you can control your muscles better. Your erection will be stronger too, thanks to the improved blood flow.

The simplest version is to squeeze your pelvic muscles for about 5 seconds. You can do this anywhere sitting, standing or lying. Try not to hold your breath (doing the deep breathing mentioned before is a supercharger). 

After this, relax your muscles for 5 seconds. Being able to consciously relax your muscles is as important as squeezing when you want to be able to relax into pleasure and intensity. 

Repeat the sequence about 10 times and do it at least 3 times a day.
It is your secret that nobody else needs to know. 

As you become better, increase the length of the squeeze and relax. 10 seconds are amazing.

This shouldn't hurt, so please be always conscious about what is happening in your body.

Edging

I will never understand why only a few men practise edging. Edging is the way to super intense orgasms and lasting longer in bed, and practising this is hot and juicy. 

What is edging? 

Edging is about pleasuring yourself almost to the point of no return, and you just stop, so that you don’t cum. Don’t worry you will end up with an ejaculatory orgasm later on, just not yet. Knowing this can help not to feel frustrated. 

You breathe deeper, relax your muscles, and after a little break you start to pleasure yourself again. 

Do at least 2-3 rounds before you allow yourself a huge, ejaculatory, mind-blowing orgasm.

This helps your nervous system to be able to handle more pleasure and intensity and you will learn more control.

Of course maybe sometimes you won’t be able to stop and cum. It is ok. Keep practising and your endurance will be better. 

If you are not able to define the last moment to stop before you cum, you can stop a bit earlier, and you will develop better consciousness about your orgasm with time.

I don’t recommend doing this while you are watching porn, because you won’t be able to focus on the sensations in your body. 

My extra tip is to change positions for self-pleasure so that it doesn’t become a routine. When you are prepared to handle different positions and situations without relying on a routine that you have to follow every time, you become free. 

You have more power, and developing skills and tools for hotter, juicier sex is definitely worth it.