Pegging is Nothing to be Scared Of!

If the word ‘pegging’ makes you think of hanging clothes up on the washing line, I can assure you you’re not alone. Although the sex act had a big pop-culture moment a few years ago, it’s still not something that’s widely considered part of your run-of-the-mill sexual encounter…which we think is a total shame.

Now, maybe that’s because at first Google, pegging might seem a little spicy…or a little scary for the average straight dude? Or maybe it’s just because there’s a little bit of homophobia going on around men being anally penetrated? One way or another, we’re here to shed some light on the subject.

The term ‘pegging’ was coined by way of a poll in Dan Savage’s sex column way back in 2001. Savage had his readers vote on a term for the sex act where a female anally penetrates a male using a strap on - and so ‘pegging’ was born.That said, pegging really became a trending topic in 2015 after an episode of Comedy Central’s Broad City when Abbi finally has sex with her hot neighbour Jeremy. It’s quite the twist when mid-coitus Jeremy turns over and hands Abbi a strap-on.

From that moment, a thousand pegging related articles popped up everywhere from Cosmo to The New York Times. While members of the LGBT community have been using strap-ons in their bedroom exploits for donkey’s years now, the vanilla, straight world was finally started to catch on. But that doesn’t mean they’ve actually been doing it!

Obviously it’s hard to get exact figures, but I’m willing to bet that most straight one night stands don’t contain a moment where the male whips out a strap on to be fucked by his partner, especially here in Ireland. Which, quite frankly, is bullshit.

Now, if you’re a man who doesn’t want his butt touched at all, that’s totally fine. But! If you’re a man who might want to try anal penetration/is curious/wants it but is too shameful then you’re doing yourself a disservice by not giving it a go.

There’s so much stigma around men receiving anal.(Growing up in a society that is homophobic and misogynistic will do that to ya.) So many straight men feel like they need to present a certain exterior to be taken seriously because anything even remotely effeminate marks them as weak. They sometimes take this attitude all the way to the bedroom and then miss out on trying all the pleasures all the body has to offer.

For the record, enjoying anal penetration or stimulation does not make you less of a man, and very much does not make you gay (although if you are, that’s obviously fine too). A homosexual man is attracted to other male presenting people and may enjoy anal sex, if you’re still attracted to only female presenting people and you happen to enjoy butt stuff? Guess what, still not gay. You’re just a straight man who happens to like taking it in the butt. And what’s wrong with that?!

Nothing at all. So, if you are someone who wants to give pegging a go but is afraid of what it means, don’t be. There’s no subtext to be had from a sex act, only enjoyment. Go on, get out there!