What can you do when vibrators feel too much?

Vibrators are not for everyone. Some people feel like vibrations can be too much or they just come too quickly from them and they don’t want any sensations afterwards. This doesn’t mean that they can’t enjoy all the pleasure vibrators can offer. There are techniques that can help you and also vibrators that (probably) will work for you. 

Let’s start with the products, and after that you will find the techniques.

 

Can different vibrators actually feel better or worse?

 

Yes, they totally can. A lot of factors can affect how sensations feel to you. 

The material of the toy: softer silicones can feel more gentle than harder plastics. Softer materials absorb some of the vibrations. The more “padding” a toy has, the less concentrated a sensation will be.

The shape of the toy: the more pointed the head is, the more focused the sensation will be, so bigger, rounder heads can feel lighter.

The frequency of the vibrations: this is the factor that for most people can make a big difference. Some vibrators have buzzy, higher pitched vibrations, and others have deeper, rumbly vibrations. When I feel buzzy vibrations my clit wants to shrink and retract inside my body to be as far away as possible. Give me rumbly, deeper vibrations and I will purr from pleasure. When I was doing pleasure mapping we often found differences in reaction. So maybe you like vibrations, “just” actually not the frequency that your toy provides.


What toys can be safer to experiment with?


The OhNut - Kiwi Pelvic Tension Vibrator has rumbly vibrations. It has 2 motors with differently shaped areas, so that you can choose what feels best for you in the heat of the moment. This vibrator was created by women for all kinds of tension issues and of course for pleasure.

 

The Satisfyer Pro2+ Gen2 can also be a good idea. Of course there are plenty of suction vibrators, but most of them have a very small hole, so all the sensations are just at the edge of the clitoris, which can feel amazing, if you want very intense sensations, but if you are super sensitive, it can be too much. The Satisfyer Pro2+ Gen2 has a bigger cup, so your clitoris has more space around. The suction starts very light, so it can be ideal for you.


The Belou Flutter Effect Finger Vibrator has the petals transferring the vibrations, so you are able to press the vibrators as little or as much to the skin that feels good. I have to add here though that some very sensitive people react more intensely to light sensation than to more pressure, so being able to play around it can be the right thing for them.

The Glam Bold - Wand Power Head has a very soft, padded head, that can make the vibration feel more gentle.

Of course these are not the only toys that can be a good choice for you, but I wanted to add the logic behind them.

Let’s talk about the techniques that can allow you to ride the waves of pleasure even if they come from a vibrator. 


Add a textile between your skin and the vibrator. This layer totally changes the sensation. And of course different materials will bring you a different sensation.

Bring the vibrator further from the sensitive areas, but not distant enough to lose the sensation. Find the perfect spot. This feels amazing. So when the vibrations are too much they are not too much everywhere. Some areas are more wired for sensations than others. Plenty of my juiciest orgasms have happened from vibrators that were about 2 cms from the clitoris. The labia and the vulva are also wired for pleasure, and you can have orgasms from vibrations there. So don’t limit yourself, but give yourself space and explore what areas feel good, and enjoy pleasuring them. It doesn’t matter how and what others are doing. What matters is what feels good to you. So experiment with distances, pressure and angle and of course with your unique pleasure map.

So even if you feel like you are overly sensitive, you have plenty of options to create the hottest, juiciest experiences. Enjoy your sensitivity and work with it so that you can expand your erotic potential. 

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