The Sex Coach Answers: How to accept my huge penis?

I know, most of you probably are raising your eyebrows… thinking about what is wrong with a big penis? Isn’t bigger always better? Shouldn’t that be a source of joy and pleasure rather than disappointment? 

And my answer starts with never invalidating anybody’s feelings or experience. Yes, sometimes being big or huge can be a challenge.

Why?

• It is harder to dress loose without worrying about involuntarily flashing yourself.
• Maybe you have to work extra hard so that you can penetrate your partner.
• Maybe you won’t have the experience of a full penetration that is so natural to others.
• Sometimes it can be harder to maintain your erection longer.
• Sometimes potential partners who are super turned on visually by your size can’t handle it in action.
• Maybe you have to deal with jealousy of others.
• When you share your challenge maybe it is not taken seriously.
• You have to really be aware of the size of your penis and “learn” your partner’s anatomy. This requires extra focus every time when you are together…

I think you got the point.

 

I’m not saying that having a big penis is a bad thing, or that you are doomed from now on. :) There are plenty of advantages of being hmmm abundant on the front. Sometimes I talk to men who think that just because they have a nice, big wand, they don’t have to do much in bed to please their partners. 

When people ask me about if size matters, I say it does matter very differently. It is all about how you can really own and enjoy what you have and how you can share the pleasure with your partner. How much and what they can receive or take have also a say in this.

If you have a huge penis, using sex toys can help you more than what you think. A

How?

(If you think that I am a woman here, so how could I help you here, you are partially right. I don’t know how it is to have a real cock. I can only imagine it. I am a tight woman, with a bit of a longer vagina and a super sensitive cervix, so one part of my advice comes from this place, one comes from my clients experiences and some from questions and feedback in the Playblue shop when I am there.)

As I mentioned before, awareness is a main factor here. You have to learn how to feel and own your penis. It is a skill to develop and it is much easier to do this with toys first to understand your size, your needs and your potential more.

A male masturbator can help you to feel how different depths and penetrations are to you. Because we are opting for a good experience for you, you can play and Fleshlights can help you with building more awareness about your sensations. So yes, I tell you to try out some different sizes here, so that you can know exactly how they feel to you.

Have a bumper handy

What is a bumper? A bumper is a special kind of cock ring. They are used for masturbation as well, but here I am mostly talking about While most cock rings are on the thinner side, the bumper is wider so it is going to create a tight grip at the base of your penis. 

Why is that good for you?

• It is going to keep the blood more in your penis, so your erection will be harder.
• You are going to have an experience when the base of your penis is also involved so it feels like you have a deeper experience.
• When you are with your partner wearing a bumper, that creates a natural “stop'' for how far you go (and yes, you can wear more bumpers if you want to), so you don’t have to be as vigilant as without them. 

Knowing your measurements is important, because so many of the toys are made for average sizes, but you can find some for your extra needs.

When you choose a penis pump for creating a better blood flow, you need one with a ring so even if it won’t reach to the base you can create the vacuum that the pump needs in order to have the suction power.

And of course:

Don’t rely on “just” your penis

The more you learn your partner’s body and arousal the “less pressure” your cock needs to deal with. And maybe this is news for you, but most erectile problems are related to performance anxiety and pressure. 

When you can blow your partner’s mind with your magic touch or how much you know what drives them crazy you become an extraordinary lover.

Don’t let your size or any other thing discourage you. Build the best skills to have the satisfaction that you are craving for.