Do vibrators desensitize your clitoris?

 I was recently asked if it was true that vibrators desensitize the clitoris. 

The official answer to this is that even though mild/transitory clitoral desensitization can happen sometimes, vibrators don’t sensitize the clitoris.

But in my opinion this is not as simple. I also experienced temporary desensitization, when I used a super strong wand for half an hour, and after that my clitoris wanted intensity and more gentle sensations didn’t feel pleasurable. This lasted about an hour. This is what mild/transitory clitoral desensitization means.

But some women experience longer periods of desensitization and it requires conscious effort and time from them to gain back their clitoral sensitivity. And I am not willing to devaluate their experiences.

I had lots of experimenting with my clitoris. I have used vibrators way before I have realized how orgasmic and sensitive I actually am. Clitoral vibrators haven't damaged my sensitivity in almost 30 years of using.


What can you do?


First of all, try to create variety in your pleasure time without repeating the same thing and reinforcing a pattern of only using vibrator on your clitoris. If you have already done this, just make an effort to do other things too, even if at the beginning they don’t feel intense. 

This requires the second part, which is allow yourself to feel and accept what is going on in your body at any moment. It is ok, if you lose the connection. Don’t judge yourself, don’t force, rush or pressure yourself. This is how you build solid foundations for more profound and satisfying erotic experiences.

When you are free to feel, and you are able to focus on these feelings, pleasure can open up for you.

There is always help and support if you experience difficulties or if you want more.

I personally don’t find vibrators threatening in this way. I’m also advocating for discovery and a variety of sensations and experiences.

I also have to add here that vibrations are not for every clitoris. Some clits find vibrations too much or not that pleasurable, and that is all ok.

Pleasure is your birth right and what feels good for you do that and experiment a little with other kinds of sensations as well.

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