The beginner’s guide to Fleshlights - SexCoach Blog

Fleshlights are popular for a reason. If you have ever felt them you know what I’m talking about. The material of the sleeves is just so… inviting. Nowadays lots of companies have caught up and come out with their own versions. Male masturbator toys are coming in lots of qualities, features and price points. And I meet more and more people who feel very lost and confused by all the options available. I wanted to help, so that you can choose the right toys for your play.

But before moving on to the more detailed description I wanted to clear something here. Fleshlight is the name of the brand that makes artificial vagina, oral and anal sex toys. It is not all of the male masturbators on the market, but when people are looking for a Fleshlight in a sex shop they are mostly looking for any brand that can provide the pleasure they desire, so this recommendation post is not only about the toys of the Fleshlight brand, but about all the similar penetrable toys. This post is only about the non vibrating options, because those are a whole other story. 

So what are the differences and how you can find the right one for you.

Genitals

Of course the first question is what do you want your sleeve to be. Do you want an oral, anal or vaginal one or some toys are totally neutral or alien inspired. 

A big percentage of the toys have a vaginal sleeve. These ones are the easiest to find. 

Anal sleeves can be neutral (like the Fleshlight - Flight Pilot), male inspired or female inspired (like the Fleshlight - Riley Reid Euphoria).

Most oral masturbators PlayBlue has are not gendered.
Tenga has amazing gender-free masturbators, like the Arte Weave Textured Masturbator or the Tenga - Flip Hole Zero, so if your main thing is the sensation rather than the fantasy, then you are going to love them.

Material

The original Fleshlight that became famous has a silicone sleeve, and it feels amazing. But there are more options.

Jelly is also highly sought after, especially when the toy has a transparent outer shell like the Rev-Air Pro, so that you can even watch what is happening inside. 

There are some new materials that don’t require lube “just” some water. 

When I say silicone and jelly this doesn’t mean all are the same. Some are better quality, some are more stretchable, some are more dense… 

What you think your body likes and what you body actually likes can be different, so experimenting will give you the best results.

Size

When you know your size can help to find what can feel the best for you. Do you require full penetration or “just” a partial one?
Some of the toys come in a “To Go” size making them more compact. 

Of course tightness is also a factor and believe it not, not everybody loves tighter toys, some are here for the feel of spaciousness and freedom. 

Some toys allow you to choose the right tightness for you. Like the Tenga Aero Suction Masturbator for example. 

If there is a plastic outer shell that defines the tightness. If you choose one without it then your grip can make more or a bit less pressure. This will make you work a little bit more.

Inner texture

This is one of my favourite parts about Fleshlights. The inner texture of the sleeve is one of the biggest differences between them. The original Fleshlight is all of a smooth ride. The newest Boost Bang is the opposite with its inner loops. It is pure perfection.

One of my favourite feels is the Tenga Booble Magic Marbles Masturbator with the built in, textured massage balls that move around so every stroke feels different.

Inspiration

As I mentioned at the beginning some people choose the toy that fits their fantasy the most. Many masturbators are made after porn stars like Jenna Haze or Jenna Fox. A mould is made from their parts and you can have it in your own toy. 

If you want something otherworldly, like the Warmhole Alien Stroker you can have that too. 

And of course you can have your own fire man or flight attendant if this is what you desire…

So yes, I understand that there are so many variations, and the more you pressure yourself to choose the right toy 

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