Get into bondage safely and with confidence

Imagining being restrained or tying somebody up is hot, but putting things into practice can be a very different experience. Start safely and confidently with my tips and you are going to unleash an incredible juicy and unforgettable journey.

Learn about bondage 

You are already doing it, reading my post about safe bondage. You don’t need to know everything about restraints, you can start with “just” the basics, and learn according to the directions you want to go. Usually ropes require the most learning, and there are plenty of videos, courses and workshops. 

Use the right equipment

Using cuffs or restraints systems, like the under the mattress ones, is much easier to start, than rope, they don’t need as much time to put together or dismantle. 

I see lots of people recommending silk ties and scarves for beginners. I got the opposite instructions during my studies. Silk ties and scarves can be tricky and knotted easily, and you don’t necessarily realize when you have tied your partner up too tight, and if this is the case it is not easy to cut them safely. Medical safety scissors can help you to save the situation.

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Communicate

Communicate before, during and after the session. It is important to know how much experience both of you have beforehand, what are your expectations, limitations and boundaries. A safe word is essential, and your play doesn’t allow your partner to talk, establish a clear sign for stopping and respect that.

Evaluating your and your partner’s experiences afterwards helps you to become better at playing together, to know your limitations, integrate the information and plan accordingly. 

This conversation is better to be held when you have had some time to process everything, and not right after your restraint session. 

Check-in regularly

Monitoring yourself and checking-in regularly with your partner are essential. You don’t necessarily know how your restrained partner feels, especially if this is your first bondage time together. Things can change very fast, and you can avoid being in bad trouble if you catch this early. This also means to check the restraints if they are too loose or too tight, the skin around the area, if there is enough blood circulation… This is how you build trust.

 

Don’t forget the Aftercare

Aftercare can be different from person to person, and helps to ground you after the play. What do you and your partner need?
Water? Something sweet? A warm blanket? Space and quiet? Cuddle? Eye contact?
Always leave time for this at the end so that you can come back to the mundane, everyday life safely, when you are ready.

And of course always go slow and practice. Be curious. Accept your natural reaction and pace without judgement. This will help you to have more pleasure while you are on a journey for even more hot, juicy, unforgettable experiences.

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