Do you hate Valentine's Day, but your partner would love it?

I get it. Valentine’s Day is not for everybody. Still want it or not, it is in your face. But what can you do if your partner wants a romantic Valentine’s Day, but you get the ick even just thinking about it.

I wanted to offer you some ideas so that you can create an unforgettable time regardless.

You don’t need to follow all of my suggestions, but maybe you will find ideas that work for you and your partner as well. 

What can you do?

Create your own celebration instead of Valentine's Day

Sometimes the expectation to do something becomes a force for resistance in you. You are not against it in general, but the pressure from the outside world is making you resist.
But at the same time it is important for you to have a juicy and deeply satisfying relationship.

It is totally ok to agree on having your special day under your conditions. For example celebrating on an alternative date, when it is everything about you. 

You can rename it to something that feels right and personal to your unique relationship. 

It can be a special place that you go to every year, or you can also decide to visit a different place every year, so that you will always find some novelty about it. 

But it is essential to have this alternative, if you want to ditch the mandatory Valentine’s day in favour of something more meaningful or hot or juicy or intimate to you…

I know this can also feel like a duty, but when you create something on the basis of your special connection, it still feels different.

 

Focus on your intention

When you ask yourself how important it is for you to hate Valentine’s Day, maybe you will realise that you have more options. You can hate the concept of Valentine’s Day, but realize that your partner would want to feel loved and cherished, and this day is especially important for them. 

So you can choose here to have the intention to create a magical time for you. I’m not saying that you should betray yourself. You can be honest about hating Valentine’s Day, and at the same time you can choose to act on the intention instead for a special occasion. (But only if you really can do this.)

Sometimes what helps to change your intention is to ask yourself what is going to be more memorable and important to you in the long run. And act according to your decision.

Have a special challenge

Challenges can ignite excitement, and make you feel more alive. Of course I’m talking about something that is turning you on. Maybe the challenge is something that you decide for your partner on this day or it can be something that they decide for you, but the topic needs to ignite something inside of you. 

The challenge makes this day different, and something unique for your relationship, so that you can have something different from the usual Valentine’s Day and create unforgettable memories.

 

Collect unforgettable memories of your Valentine’s Celebration

When you collect and cultivate good memories of your celebrations together, it can be something that inspires you to have even more of them. You can start (and continue) an album for example with 1 photo together from every Valentine’s Day. 

You can write your most memorable experience together from that year and share about it every Valentine’s Day. When you have a collection of these highly appreciated that you can come back to, it can make your connection stronger. Yes, this can feel cheesy, but it can be your secret. :)

Choose the ideas that you are resonating with and create a Valentine’s Day that feels the juiciest and most satisfying to you.