Your August Pleasure Challenge

What about making the pleasure challenge for this month about going sloow and even sloooower, maybe even slower than that?

I know that most people think that when it is about sex, more is better. You just go faster, go deeper, use something bigger and the response will be pure bliss. And sometimes it is. I don’t want to devalue anybody’s experiences, but the most underrated erotic spice is going slower, sometimes even to the point when you “just” stay and hold there. 


What can be good about going slow?


You are going to be aware more precisely about what you feel

You build presence and sensitivity

You will know your body better (or your partner’s body)

Going slower as a giver or as a receiver allows more connection


And believe it or not, going slower can be more intense for a lot of people, and their bodies can react to it with unexpected movements and feelings. 

Going slower can feel very strange first. You want to give more, but what if what you are doing is not enough for your partner and they will think you are boring?

I’m not going to lie, this can happen. This is why a better way to experiment is to tell them that you decided to do a Slow Down August, because you are curious about where this leads you.


When it is about your sex life approaching with curiosity and openness will always provide you better results than trying to perform or following an agenda.


So you don’t need to do all your encounters about slowing down. Enjoy your quickies and whatever you want, I just recommend to intentionally create some times when you try slowing down and see what happens.

Maybe the response is wanting more, and slowing down becomes teasing. And you are totally allowed to go faster after a point.

Maybe the response is numbness or boredom, if the body is conditioned for intensity / or it is super sensitive and your slow speed is not slow enough. 

Maybe your (or your partner’s) body realises that instead of tensing up for an orgasm they can actually melt and relax to it.

Maybe your mind becomes overly active because the change of the experience doesn’t feel safe. You can practice to come back to your body over and over again without judgment, or decide that this challenge is not for you. 

Maybe you become multiorgasmic…


This is the most exciting part of a pleasure challenge, you can open up to new ways for fulfilment and/or you can become more aware of what works for you.

And yes, you can start with a significant slowing down or you can slow down gradually with time.

Journaling about your experience afterward can also help a lot to understand yourself better, and if you do this challenge with a partner you can share about your experience and move forward accordingly. 

Try the August Pleasure Challenge and discover something new about yourself and/or your partner.

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