3 ways you are losing out on orgasms

Have you ever lost an orgasm?

You felt like you were closer and closer to cum, but “just” couldn’t finish? 

It can be frustrating. But it doesn’t need to be like this. You can touch the sky and feel like you are in heaven. 

But why is this happening to you?

Here are 3 of the common reasons you are losing out on orgasms, and the ways you can change this.

 

You don’t breathe deep enough

Your breathing is a foundational part of your capacity for pleasure. The more superficial your breathing is, the less intense your orgasms will be. Breathing deeply allows you to be more present and open to embrace more pleasure, and have even better orgasms.

 

You don’t have good pelvic awareness

If you don’t feel your body, you are missing out on pleasure. The more you are aware of what is happening, the more you will know what you need in the moment, so that you can ride the waves of pleasure. This is not “just” about feeling what is good, but also when you are tensing up, where you are numb, when you need more, when your body wants you to slow down.
Knowing your body and being connected to your pelvis will open the door for a better flow and more intense pleasure.

You are chasing pleasure instead of feeling it

Maybe you know the feeling. You want to feel good, and try to grasp into pleasure, but instead sex becomes a lot of work and you tense up. You can’t force yourself into more and better orgasm. (Some orgasms can be forced, but these usually are less satisfying.) When you feel pleasure and you can be in the flow of it, orgasms become more natural and fulfilling. The less you try to control what you are feeling, the more you can allow yourself to experience high levels of pleasure.
You have to be able to feel pleasure in order to have more of it, instead of the pressure for performance or frustration or disappointment.

You can practice to allow more pleasure in your life and to become more orgasmic naturally, without forcing or pressuring yourself (or your partner).