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One of the most liked topics on the social media of Playblue is pegging. Strap-ons are popular and so hot. I get lots of questions from people asking for advice about their first strap-on, especially when bought for pegging.
And especially if you don’t even know if pegging is for you at all.

So let’s start with this part. 



How to know if pegging is for you?



Try some anal play first, and see how you feel about it. Start small, ang go step by step. (I have already wrote a blog post about how to go through challenges and make your anal play orgasmic. Click here, and check it out.)

When you start pegging it is going to be your first time, and there will be a lot of new things, so building it up is works way better.

Also if you have a challenge, you are going to know what exactly that is, and you don’t bin the whole experience about one thing that was other than expected. Maybe your body reacts differently. Maybe you haven’t chosen the right toy to play with…


So if you start with anal exploration before you expand to pegging you are going to have an idea about what your sensitive anus can handle or even love. This true experience helps you to choose the right size and shape of dildo for pegging. So when your partner is going to use them for pegging, both of you already have an experience and they also know what they are doing.


You can even try different positions without the strapon first, because the angle can mean a lot. Just like G-Spot, the prostate is also sensitive and can provide a huge amount of pleasure and orgasmic response. It is not the “only” anal orgasm potential, hence lost of men describe that they can have prostate orgasms and anal orgasms, and they feel different to them. Just like a G-spot orgasm, vaginal orgasms or cervical orgasms can feel different, even if they “come” from penetration. So try what shape, size, texture feels best for you, and start small.


What do you need for pegging?

I know that your first thought is that you need a strap-on. But first be sure that you have some suitable lube around. Don’t start it without the lube.

Most probably you are going to use a silicone strap-on, so my recommendation is to use waterbased lube. Silicone lube is not safe with silicone toys, the same is true for oils used as lubes.

If you have sensitive skin or you are allergic to latex then you have to be more careful with your lube. If this is the case, try to avoid glycerine or parabens in your lube.


You don’t necessarily need anal lube for anal play, but I personally find them to be more suitable hence they are usually thicker, and they tend to be more concentrated on the areas you put them, so they will provide you lubrication where you need it. 


Some lubes have an anal relaxant, to help you to ease, but what I would recommend here is to create a good relationship with anal play and your anus, and you can train yourself for pleasure rather than avoiding pain and desensitizing. You can change your relationship to the anus and you can open a pathway to anal pleasure with very minimal or no pain at all. But of course try and choose the way that works for you.

And I also know that some people are into anal pain. And if you or your partner are one of this kind of anal experience, that is totally fine too (if you have consent about it). Then go with the pain but stay on the safe side, be careful and make aftercare a priority. Even if this is the case, go gradually and start with a smaller dildo than what you think you want to use :)), and please add lube.


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And yes, you need a strap-on. Hence you go gradually, I would start with a simple harness so that you can change the added dildo easily. Something like the Loving Joy Universal Black Strap On is easy to use. I know that the straps can be intimidating first, but they are there so that you can adjust the harness to the unique shape and size of your body and preference. 


Check out my video about the Loving Joy Universal Harness.


Different positions can require different positioning of the dildo, and the straps give you the freedom to really choose what is best for you.


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If your harness has a rubber ring rather than a metal one, I would recommend at least double it up or use a stricter cock ring, just like me in the video. 


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The right dildo for the harness



It is good to have some variety here. And not just consider realistic dildos, but those that your partner’s body really enjoys too. (This is why you use them before pegging, to explore what works the best. Every body has its own truth and preference. There is no dildo or size or even texture that works for everybody. Trial and error is the best way to see what is going to have the rapture response that you are going for.

Doesn’t matter what you think it is going to work, because it is not the mind that has the real knowledge here. The body likes what the body likes.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t opt for realistic dildos, but that you have the freedom to have any shape, colour or size of dildo that you want, so make the most of it. You deserve to have a nice selection, and this is why it is best to start with a harness where you can easily add the dildo of your choice for that occasion. And if you find that the chosen toy is not the best for that time, you can swap to another one easily. Don’t let anything ruin the mood. :)


Of course you need a dildo that can stay put in the harness, so having the base that is wide can help with stability. The tighter the anus is the more resistance you are going to experience while thrusting, this is why preparation, lube and a stable dildo are crucial for pegging. 


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Position masters allow you also to be more flexible at choosing positions that suit the prostate and anus better.  They are not a necessity, but give you more options and ease, so worth checking them.


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Do you have a question? Write to me at the sexcoach@playblue.ie