BLOG

It is amazing to live nowadays. What we know about the clitoris today is way more than it was even 10 years ago, and there is a lot going on to find out even more about arousal, orgasms and the nervous system. Also lots of new toys are available. I am amazed to see what has become possible.



I have become a sex coach because I was struggling with orgasms. I so wanted to figure out what the keys are for ease and mind blowing experiences where pleasure is not hard work anymore. Today I’m super orgasmic and I can experience a huge variety of orgasms. Usually clitoral orgasms take longer for me than vaginal ones, but still these orgasms are super intense.

Having toys adds some extra spice to this picture. 

 

Of course you don’t necessarily need toys to play with in order to elevate your clit play, and this post focuses more on 3 tips that make your selfplay/selfpleasure/masturbation different.

Let's start with how to map your clit to feel the different sensations at different spots. This on its own is a good way to start to elevate your pleasure levels and connect with your body so that you can feel the different qualities of the pleasure that is available for you.

And of course use lubrication. It is going to make a big difference. 

Masturbating with intention

 

I know it doesn't sounds like a big thing to have intentions for your masturbation, but if you try it, you are going to understand what I am talking about it.

You can masturbate:
- just to feel some release
- to have the juiciest time
- to test how many times you can cum in 20 minutes
- to expand your orgasm
- to try relaxing into orgasms rather than cumming from tensing up...

And you are going to have totally different experiences with these intentions. 

Time frame

 

I know this works very well to some people and not that much to others. When you are not into having a result at the end of your masturbation but rather decide to have a time frame to play with yourself and see where this is going to lead you, you create a space to explore. There is so much freedom in this. 
The time frame can help you to be more present in what you are doing, or it can create some extra spice when you feel that you don't have much time left. 
When you don't have a partner this also creates some excitement and also some restriction at the same time, that actually can be a better turn on.

 

Edging and orgasm control

 

If you are struggling with orgasms, than maybe this is not your play, but it really worth trying it. (Interestingly orgasm denial can sometimes help you to become more orgasmic.)

You can consciously choose to edge yourself so that you can have a more intense orgasm at the end. If your orgasms are elusive, and you are playing with this, you can experience less frustrations, hence the ride is part of your play and not the reason of your frustration.

Playing with orgasm control is so fun too. When you are counting back from 9 to 1 to cum. (You can give yourself 2-3 rounds if the first round hasn't been enough for you to cum.)